If not, can see how it would be unsettling because as best I can tell, you’ve not had female friends for four years and one appears via a call.

Do you know if your GF and/or those near and dear have experienced a significant other having a friend. with whom they become romantically involved or if one or more of ’em have been the friend with whom things went further?

Does this strike you more as a blip, a one-off or has she said and done other things that reasonably suggest an unhealthy level of insecurity and need for control?

FWIW, a lot of (straight) people, they’re sailing along with an SO, the SO has no different-sex friends and suddenly one appears via a phone call

With that said, and there are some other relevant possibilities that would have a bearing on her reaction, sure, her reaction would and should concern most anyone, not that most anyone is you.

Hard to see the loss in finding the right time and place and tone to have a conversation with your GF. If the call was the first your GF heard of the friend, feels reasonable to relate that the better choice on your part would have been to tell her about the friend from getbride.org koblet her the git-go.

If the GF’s view and tone do not change, up to you if you’re okay with this. If so, like the weather, harder to predict things the further out one goes, but be prepared for a serious possibility that she’s made the first turns of a screw and not the last. posted by ambient2 at 9:54 PM on

Are you attracted to this woman? Are you? Ask yourself honestly, because maybe your girlfriend heard something in your voice or saw something in the way you acted that legitimately worried her.

Maybe she wonders what you will do together. Go to dinner? A movie? Something datey? She can’t imagine what you + a girl could do together because it’s never been an issue before. Maybe you need to arrange some sort of group activity that could accommodate the men and women you both know so she can get comfortable with the idea. (more…)